Having life figured out

When do we try to stop figuring life out? A friend of mine said very wise words to me a couple of days ago. He was wondering about the people who have “life all figured out”. What he meant with this, was people who already know how everything should or should not be and have a clear imagination of how things in life should be dealt with and how everybody should react in certain situations. This all sounds perfect. Sounds grown up. But if you have already figured all these things out – there is no room for learning, sharing and broadening your mind. If you live a life of rules, of wrongs and rights, do´s and dont´s – how can innovation happen?

Let´s take the example of eating a meal. In order to eat a meal you´d need a fork and a knife, a table, a chair, a plate and hot food. What if you didn´t have any of these things? Will you a.) never be able to eat a meal in your life again? Or b.) will you just sit on the floor,  eat with your hands from a big bowl of something you have never seen before? Well, I personally would choose the second option.

When do we stop saying things like: “This person needs to get his/her life together. It´s about time to get a real job and to take responsibility for life. Life is not a game, it´s time to get serious.”

I have heard these sentencens from different people of different ages. It´s like we´ve all been brainwashed to believing things nobody has ever been able to prove. Weren´t the most exceptional people those who did not follow everything society had expected of them? Those who took risks, decided for adventure or followed their passions? Who tells us what’s wrong and what’s right? And who tells me how I should behave and what life is or isn´t? I think we all make our own decisions and definitions of life. When do we stop to judge and start to see and appreciate each other?

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  1. Last night I visited some longtime friends of mine who had been living away from Vancouver and are now back. When I last saw them, their daughter was 2. Now she’s 13. I told their daughter that when I was her age, I just assumed that by the time everyone reached 30, they had “everything figured out”. Then you enter your early twenties and you quickly learn that a lot of older people have pretty much nothing figured out. I look at some of my mom’s friends – in their 70’s & 80’s – who still act like teenage girls much of the time. I guess they jumped off the Wisdom Train decades ago.

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