Calculations

Some say it is 1% luck, 20% skill, 15% concentrated power of will 5% pleasure and 50% pain to success. Do you agree?

The sun was shining in northern Sweden. But we ignored it and stayed inside to write our Master Thesis. Hard? YES! Who knows when the next sunny day will be?

Living in uncertainty is the most exciting.

A friend of mine told me about this crazy movie of a guy “free running” 7 summits in a really short period of time. His friend died trying to climb one of the summits. (true story!) When I heard of that, my initial comment was: “People should not do stuff they could die from.” And my friend replied “climbing a mountain is like life. You make decisions every day. Some of them change your life for ever.”

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Connecting the dots

My inspiration of today: Steve Job´s 2005 Stanford graduation speech!

I think I have seen it at least 3 times already, but I can never get enough of his words. Listening to speeches several times is like watching a movie over and over again. Every time you´ll discover a new, different angle you have not taken into consideration before. This time, listening to Steve´s speech following lines touched my heart particularly:

 

The first story is about connecting the dots:

Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.

The second story is about love and loss:

 It was awful tasting medicine (to be fired from Apple), but I guess the patient needed it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith. I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle.

And the third story is about death:

Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure – these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.

 Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.

video link to the whole speech: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D1R-jKKp3NA

text link to the whole speech: http://news.stanford.edu/news/2005/june15/jobs-061505.html

No regrets

Sometimes plans change and suddenly your life is turned upside down.

When I moved to Sweden I thought I would stay here for at least two years. Even though I am not a big fan of buying stuff, I bought many things to make myself feel home in a place away from home. Because I thought I would stay in Sweden for longer I did not attend as many university activities, as I could have. And now that I might leave this place I am having discussions with myself about all the things I have postponed.

A part of me is trying to tell myself that I should have been more active. More like the international exchange students here on the university. They rented cars almost every weekend, went hiking, climbing, swimming, BBQing – name it, they did it, while I was strategically planning my stay in Sweden with carefully distributed events during my time here. Sure, I have seen and done many things here as well. But if I had wanted I could have done more.

And that brings me exactly to the point. Why should I regret my priorities from one year ago? As I said: plans change. And even though it is my life, I do not have control over everything that´s happening. But don´t they always say: life every day like it´s your last?

What if, on the last day of my life I just feel like going to bed at 20:00? Would it make my day better to go out and party with my friends? I believe it is like the famous reggae artist Ziggy Marley sings: “I got to be true to myself”

And to me, being true to myself means to accept the reality as it is. If I feel tired on my last day I will go to sleep. Living every day like it could be your last does not mean that you have to do the most crazy things in order to keep up with the adventure in your life. It just means to live your life the way you want it – without fear of what the future brings.

No regrets.

and my heart goes boom

Do you remember the song from French Affair called “my heart goes boom” in 2000?
The disco techno 90´s style German/ French music made it worldwide in the charts and was on No1 for weeks especially in Europe. I just can´t get it out of my head on this rainy, grey thursday morning.

I love these moments when you feel alive because something unexpected happened and your heart just goes *boom*. Especially when you have almost forgotten how it feels to get excited or emotionally “unstable”. When your life turns into a rollercoaster and you feel that you don´t actually have control over everything you can just lean back, lift your arms and enjoy the ride.

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Energy givers and energy takers.

This morning I am thinking about energy in my life and about the 20:80 rule. The rule says that 20 percent of tasks/ persons are taking up 80% of our energy/ time.

If you google for this phenomenon you will probably find results like “Are you a energy giver or are you a energy taker? Do the quick test!”. Most results say that you should not waste your time by spending it with so called “energy takers” – friends or people in your life that are like a heavy “rock” on your legs. They suggest you to cut the rocks loose in order for you to rise up in the sky like a balloon.

Sure this whole concept sounds interesting. If consequently applied it would mean that nobody had to work through a difficult situation with friends, a hard time with a partner or a boring, time consuming period at work. Everybody has the ability to run away from whatever they think of as too time and energy consuming.

Now, put yourself into the shoes of the “energy taker”. Have you never been in a low? Did you never go through a heavy and long break up? Is your job really always fun? And who helped you to endure these periods? My guess: Energy givers!

So, think again before you are cutting loose a rock from your legs. You might end up without friends – high up in the sky. As they say in Sweden: Take everything with a pinch of salt. Which means as much as: think about everything you hear and do not blindly follow other people´s statements.

No doubt that we should more often make use of the ability to say “no” if we mean it and to know when it is time to stop making space in your life for certain things or people. For me it is most important to know where I am going in the long run. And it is crucial to know what is most important in life. If a situation or person does not play a role on your life path and is never going to play one in the future AND is energy and time consuming – then you might think about cutting the rock loose.

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Today´s inspiration…

… is 27 year old Raha Moharrak from Saudi Arabia who climbed Mount Everest.

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She made history by proving to the world that every individual is cabable of following their dreams. She explained that making her family approve her plans was just as hard as to climb Mount Everest. 

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